Feeling tired from you’re 9-5 job? Do you ever feel like things are controlling you and you don’t feel like you’re in control? I hear you. I think to some degree within our lives, many of us can relate to this. Days tend to drag. Weekdays tend to be long. Weekends tend to end too quickly. Does this sound accurate to you?
I agree. But, in the same sense. There are other questions we have to ask internally to validate how we are feeling. Have you ever asked yourself if you loved your job? Do you truly love what you do? Majority of us who work 9-5 jobs have to work to pay bills. And if we don’t pay bills, we cannot survive. And on top of that, some of us are providers. You may be father that needs to provide for their significant other and kids. You may have a boyfriend or a girlfriend that you like to accommodate to for fun outings. You may have to pay for rent, your car note, car insurance, credit card debit, and other bills that add up on a weekly basis. Life is hard. It can be challenging. It can drain us mentally, physically, and spiritually. I will not deny you that.
But, again to circle back on the question I have asked you. Have you really challenged your inner thoughts and asked if you truly love what you do? Think about it. What makes you happy on a level where you would work and do something so much that you love, for free? How would that make you feel? How would it feel to be a social media creative? How would it feel to start your own business? How would it feel to learn a new skill that you love that would put money in your pocket? These are the questions we should be asking ourselves. Maybe the 9-5 wouldn’t be so bad after all right?
There is a harsh reality within this life that I have grown to known as I have gotten older. I sit here as 30 year old single man writing this blog in my apartment in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. I pay my own rent. It’s a number, that’s all you need to know. We all have numbers we have to pay on the first of the month. For those of you that do not pay rent and you live with your parents take this message seriously. SAVE YOUR MONEY AND INVEST INTO YOURSELF! Because when you start paying rent, it will get challenging! The reality is this. We must work to make a living. Whether if it’s for yourself or for someone else. Work gives us lifestyle, sustainability, and an opportunity to either live afloat, within or below your means, or above your means. Nonetheless it is our choice. And it also our choice to make ourselves happier. It’s our choice to quit a job we thoroughly do not enjoy. It is our choice to make the necessary changes in our lives when things begin to challenge us. It is our choice whether we want to continue to suffer, or create positive changes in our lives. That is the reality. And the beauty in this life is that we all have the choice to make a decision.
I think sometimes humans are harsh on far too harsh on theirself. Do me a favor and give yourself some grace. To whatever that is. Pray. Read your affirmations. Read your post-its on your wall that you help you stay disciplined and motivated throughout your days. Workout. Get some exercise. Take a walk. Call your friend. But, please. Take care of yourselves. If you aren’t good, then how are you going to help others in life? How are we going to do the things we love if we aren’t good? It’ll be okay. Tough times don’t last, but people do. This too shall pass. Thoughts and bad experiences are like clouds. They are here for the moment, but eventually they will pass. Same as a bus on the road. They are here temporarily, but the pass will pass. Just like good things in life. And tough things in life. This life wasn’t meant for it to be easy for you. It was meant to be difficult for you. Nothing in life is easy or hand given. We have to work for it. We have to be strong to get knocked and get up. No matter how many times this happens. Which is normal. So please. Believe me, if things keep happening in your life, there will be a time where the madness stops and the tranquility arrives. Just be patient. And never lose faith. Believe in you, like I believe in you. Watch how far you will go.
There is nothing wrong with changing careers midway in your life to accommodate your personal happiness. It’s more common than you think. Just because you went to school for accounting doesn’t mean you enjoy being an accountant. There is no problem with getting into sales and providing a service to an individual if that brings you more joy. As I said before, we are responsible for our personal happiness. We cannot rely on our significant others, our friends, our co-workers, and our family members to bring that happiness out of us. I’m not saying that we need to walk around with a smile every minute of the day and go skipping with every step you take throughout your day. You’d be looked at as crazy. And that’s unrealistic. We all go through things. We have our ups, our downs. Life is cyclical. That is why we must always remain centered. Focused. Not too high. Not too low. Right in the middle. That mindset will take you far. Try it one day. You’ll start to changes in your self very soon.
Have you ever heard of Nikola Jokic? If not, he is a current NBA basketball player for the Denver Nuggets. He is regarded as the best player in the NBA. Extremely skilled, not very loud and not very expressive, but is very serviceable to his team. In the 2022-2023 season, the Denver Nuggets would go on to play the Miami Heat in the NBA Finals and defeat them. It was his post-conference interview that made me think of things differently. He acted as if nothing happened. He was excited. He was celebratory. But, this was just another moment in his life. One reported asked him what he would do next. And he just simply replied. “I’m going back home. Probably go ride horses”. He’s from Serbia. And his lifestyle as an NBA player is very simple. He’s not flashy. He’s just a regular dude. It made me think. If this dude can win the NBA Finals MVP and win the NBA Championship and be poise, so can we. Now we don’t have to be the Nikola Jokic standard. But, the point is. Don’t over react. Don’t over react when you get cut off by another drive. Don’t over react with bills. Don’t over react with problems within your family. Don’t over react when things aren’t going to the likening of your preference. Because this is the reality. None of us have it easy. Chaotic lives are the new norm. Stay in flow state. You have enough.
We as humans have the tendency to want more, more, and more. Do we look at the simplicity of things often and reflect? Do I have a roof over my head? Do I have a significant other? Do I have a source on income? Do I have children? Am I alive and breathing? Am I in jail? Do I have freedom? Do I have a choice? Do I have a choice to turn things around? Or are you not allowing space in your brain to believe that you have the choice to turn things around? Life is about perspective. Sometimes we just need to take a step back and truly assess situations to reflect in a positive way. But, again this can be hard when we have so much cluttered in our minds. Hence to why I will reiterate BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF!
I want you to succeed. Trust me. I’ve seen great stories of great comebacks. From personal friends, to co-workers, to celebrities, etc. But, there also must be a belief system within that allows space in your mind to believe that. Have some faith. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you’re struggling. It’s okay. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to reach out to a friend, a co-worker, a therapist, or your pastor for help and advice. Go to your parents. Go to someone you trust. Ask for insight. Ask for guidance. At some point in our lives, we needed guidance and direction to help get us to where we are today. So what’s the difference? There’s always light. But, we have to allow space in our minds to rationalize that. Remember. Tough times don’t last, but tough people do. This too shall pass. Because like everything in life- good or bad. It’s all temporary. So we may as well accommodate our happiness and do what we love. Believe in you, like I believe in you.
With love and respect,
Mr. Creator
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